Category: Mother of a child on the spectrum

Reminding Myself: Looking Back At Our Autism Diagnosis. These Are the Things.

Stop blaming It doesn’t matter how or what caused Andrew’s autism. I have more important things to focus on than the blame game. Above all else, I dare not for one more second, blame myself.  It’s nothing I did, did not do, should’ve, would’ve or could’ve done. I am are not the cause. All this mentality will do is drain me and pull me down to…

Autism Obsessions, Routines, & Rituals?

Autism comes with a lot of adjusting and learning on the parents’ side. Individuals with autism require different levels of care and ways of conducting life than their neurotypical peers. A huge reason for this has to do with autism obsessions, rituals and routines. Andrew has so many routines and obsessions that I do not even know where to start to…

Help Reduce Anxiety in Children with Autism

Last night for the first time, I believe Andrew had his first panic attack. He couldn’t catch his breathe, his heart was racing, he was sweaty, and just all over the place.  He wanted me, then didn’t want me then he wanted Andy then didn’t want Andy.  Nothing we did could comfort him.  When I tried to ignore him and…

It’s Hard to Refer to Your Child as Autistic if You Still Are Not Sure What It All Means.

You know the phrase – If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism. Well it’s true. Since my son, Andrew, was diagnosed with autism I’ve done a great deal of research about the autism spectrum. I’ve talked with countless doctors, therapists, autistic adults, and autism parents. Each professional I talk to and each article I read sends…

Special Needs Parenting: When Your Husband Doesn’t Get It

Time Matters I spend almost every minute of my waking life caring for my kids. Sometimes, it goes well. Sometimes it doesn’t. But I have had loads of time, and so much trial and error, to study my son’s behaviors, to learn his triggers, to craft his routine, and to meet with all of his doctors and therapists to figure…

The Blame Game, How to Deal with the Self-Guilt of Parenting

I think, one of the main reasons I felt guilt and personal responsibility for causing Andrew’s autism or at least contributing to it; there are so many unknown reasons as to what causes autism that I looked for something concrete. Even if that meant blaming myself. If I could at least put some sort of name, some sort of anything to…

The One Thing I Want for My Son With Autism in the Future

Recently, a woman posted a status on Facebook expressing her fears concerning her daughter’s future. Her daughter, who was diagnosed with autism, may never move out. She may never live independently. She may never get married. I’ve thought about these things before. When I see friends post cute little memes about how they’re not just raising men, but they’re raising someone’s future husband and father, too,…

Meet Sue Simmons, Creator of Lemons to Lemonade

Sue Simmons is on a mission to give Autism Moms back their power! “Moms of ASD children have been given the unspoken message that they’re unqualified to help their children; that they belong in the back seat of the bus. I’m out to change this,” says Simmons. Her journey began the day her five-year-old son was diagnosed with autism. For…