Category: Mother to a Son on the Spectrum

Reminding Myself: Looking Back At Our Autism Diagnosis. These Are the Things.

Stop blaming It doesn’t matter how or what caused Andrew’s autism. I have more important things to focus on than the blame game. Above all else, I dare not for one more second, blame myself.  It’s nothing I did, did not do, should’ve, would’ve or could’ve done. I am are not the cause. All this mentality will do is drain me and pull me down to…

Autism Obsessions, Routines, & Rituals?

Autism comes with a lot of adjusting and learning on the parents’ side. Individuals with autism require different levels of care and ways of conducting life than their neurotypical peers. A huge reason for this has to do with autism obsessions, rituals and routines. Andrew has so many routines and obsessions that I do not even know where to start to…

Autism is not the Enemy, I Must Remind Myself of this Daily

As I write this post, finding out your child has special needs is an emotional process. The journey often comes with trials, challenges and pressures, including services, ongoing therapies, arrangements for special education, and maybe medical care. I feel the need to step back and address a topic that often isn’t discussed but deserves attention.  I want to explain how…

Could it be Autistic Burnout?

Things lately have been going excuse my phrase, totally ass backwards with Andrew.  I feel like the progress that has been made has been lost.  There are so many factors that could be the cause and I spend day in and day out trying to find the exact cause, or reason.  But that is just it, there is no reason,…

My Son Can and Will Play Sports To. The 3c’s That Can Help Parents of Spectrum Kids Find a Sports Program.

Most parents can’t deny that they want to see their child score the winning goal, make the buzzer-beater basket, or hit the walk off home-run. However, these traditional, large-team sports such as soccer, basketball, baseball, and football might not be the best choices for children with autism. In all of these sports, the demand for social interaction, calculating movement, and…

Help Reduce Anxiety in Children with Autism

Last night for the first time, I believe Andrew had his first panic attack. He couldn’t catch his breathe, his heart was racing, he was sweaty, and just all over the place.  He wanted me, then didn’t want me then he wanted Andy then didn’t want Andy.  Nothing we did could comfort him.  When I tried to ignore him and…

It’s Hard to Refer to Your Child as Autistic if You Still Are Not Sure What It All Means.

You know the phrase – If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism. Well it’s true. Since my son, Andrew, was diagnosed with autism I’ve done a great deal of research about the autism spectrum. I’ve talked with countless doctors, therapists, autistic adults, and autism parents. Each professional I talk to and each article I read sends…

Special Needs Parenting: When Your Husband Doesn’t Get It

Time Matters I spend almost every minute of my waking life caring for my kids. Sometimes, it goes well. Sometimes it doesn’t. But I have had loads of time, and so much trial and error, to study my son’s behaviors, to learn his triggers, to craft his routine, and to meet with all of his doctors and therapists to figure…

How to Handle Stimming in Autistic Children

Whether or not you are familiar with the term “stimming” (short for “self-stimulation”), you’ve probably seen it in the form of hand or arm flapping, spinning, rocking back and forth, or self-injurious versions like hitting or biting oneself. Stimming can also be verbal. It’s not uncommon to hear repetitive squealing, screaming, or sound effects coming from a child with Autism.…

The One Thing I Want for My Son With Autism in the Future

Recently, a woman posted a status on Facebook expressing her fears concerning her daughter’s future. Her daughter, who was diagnosed with autism, may never move out. She may never live independently. She may never get married. I’ve thought about these things before. When I see friends post cute little memes about how they’re not just raising men, but they’re raising someone’s future husband and father, too,…