Category: Parenting

If You are a Terrible Parent, Then I am the “Mephistopheles”

I am in a season of my life right now where I feel bone tired almost all the time. Ragged, how-am-I-going-to-make-it-to-the-end-of-the-day, eyes burning exhausted. I have toddlers, Andrew 4, and Arywn 2.  I’m not complaining about that. Well, maybe I am a little bit. But I know that there are people who would give anything for a house full of…

Dear What Could…

Dear what could have been friend, And I say could have, but it’s not you, it’s me. Typical, right? But hear me out. I am generally a good person. And I don’t mean that in a boasting/bragging kinda way, just a that’s kinda how you should be way. Treat people the way you want to be treated, and all that.…

Yes, Finally Back to School Time. Yikes Here Come’s the Re-adjusting…Yet Again. Ouch.

We’re nearing that wonderful time of the year again when our kids return to school. As the parent of an autism spectrum child, I’m not sure which is more challenging—attempting to create structure for a child during the summer months or trying to get the child back into a new routine at the start of a school year. Either way, one thing…

Will He Ever Sleep Through the Night Again? Will I Get a Full Nights Sleep Ever Again?

Sleep. As a mother, it’s a precious commodity. Hell, even if you’re not a mother, you start to go a little crazy if you don’t sleep. It’s scientifically proven that sleep deprivation can lead to a whole host of health problems. So, what do you do when you have insomnia and, as is common when raising a child with autism,…

Could it be Autistic Burnout?

Things lately have been going excuse my phrase, totally ass backwards with Andrew.  I feel like the progress that has been made has been lost.  There are so many factors that could be the cause and I spend day in and day out trying to find the exact cause, or reason.  But that is just it, there is no reason,…

It’s Hard to Refer to Your Child as Autistic if You Still Are Not Sure What It All Means.

You know the phrase – If you’ve met one person with autism, you’ve met one person with autism. Well it’s true. Since my son, Andrew, was diagnosed with autism I’ve done a great deal of research about the autism spectrum. I’ve talked with countless doctors, therapists, autistic adults, and autism parents. Each professional I talk to and each article I read sends…

Special Needs Parenting: When Your Husband Doesn’t Get It

Time Matters I spend almost every minute of my waking life caring for my kids. Sometimes, it goes well. Sometimes it doesn’t. But I have had loads of time, and so much trial and error, to study my son’s behaviors, to learn his triggers, to craft his routine, and to meet with all of his doctors and therapists to figure…

The Blame Game, How to Deal with the Self-Guilt of Parenting

I think, one of the main reasons I felt guilt and personal responsibility for causing Andrew’s autism or at least contributing to it; there are so many unknown reasons as to what causes autism that I looked for something concrete. Even if that meant blaming myself. If I could at least put some sort of name, some sort of anything to…