Tag: #meltdowns

Dear What Could…

Dear what could have been friend, And I say could have, but it’s not you, it’s me. Typical, right? But hear me out. I am generally a good person. And I don’t mean that in a boasting/bragging kinda way, just a that’s kinda how you should be way. Treat people the way you want to be treated, and all that.…

I See You Starring, Do Not Judge Me Until You Can Look In the Mirror and Say That You Are Perfect.

I see you, sitting there subtly staring. Your look of disapproval is not invisible to me. I see you, sitting at the next table with your children, puzzled at my decision, at my parenting practices. I see you, looking at me from the corner of your eye. Your body language silently disapproving of my decisions regarding my son. I see…

Will He Ever Sleep Through the Night Again? Will I Get a Full Nights Sleep Ever Again?

Sleep. As a mother, it’s a precious commodity. Hell, even if you’re not a mother, you start to go a little crazy if you don’t sleep. It’s scientifically proven that sleep deprivation can lead to a whole host of health problems. So, what do you do when you have insomnia and, as is common when raising a child with autism,…

Reminding Myself: Looking Back At Our Autism Diagnosis. These Are the Things.

Stop blaming It doesn’t matter how or what caused Andrew’s autism. I have more important things to focus on than the blame game. Above all else, I dare not for one more second, blame myself.  It’s nothing I did, did not do, should’ve, would’ve or could’ve done. I am are not the cause. All this mentality will do is drain me and pull me down to…

Autism Obsessions, Routines, & Rituals?

Autism comes with a lot of adjusting and learning on the parents’ side. Individuals with autism require different levels of care and ways of conducting life than their neurotypical peers. A huge reason for this has to do with autism obsessions, rituals and routines. Andrew has so many routines and obsessions that I do not even know where to start to…

Could it be Autistic Burnout?

Things lately have been going excuse my phrase, totally ass backwards with Andrew.  I feel like the progress that has been made has been lost.  There are so many factors that could be the cause and I spend day in and day out trying to find the exact cause, or reason.  But that is just it, there is no reason,…

Help Reduce Anxiety in Children with Autism

Last night for the first time, I believe Andrew had his first panic attack. He couldn’t catch his breathe, his heart was racing, he was sweaty, and just all over the place.  He wanted me, then didn’t want me then he wanted Andy then didn’t want Andy.  Nothing we did could comfort him.  When I tried to ignore him and…

Special Needs Parenting: When Your Husband Doesn’t Get It

Time Matters I spend almost every minute of my waking life caring for my kids. Sometimes, it goes well. Sometimes it doesn’t. But I have had loads of time, and so much trial and error, to study my son’s behaviors, to learn his triggers, to craft his routine, and to meet with all of his doctors and therapists to figure…

Dear Strong willed Child of Mine

Dear Strong Willed Child of Mine. We have had many battles you and I. We’ve had battles in the sun, in the store, at home, the park, battles over what shoes to wear, and a battle where I walked you screaming and kicking back to the house. You were red and fuming, I fought back tears. We’ve had thousands of…